DURING THE TIME OF CORONA VIRUS

People are scared, anxious, depressed, feel helpless, feel hopeless. It’s all true. Most of us have been on some type of quarantine for months. We’ve learned to wear masks and talk, to stay six feet away from everyone we’re not living with, and to use tubs of hand sanitizer along with washing our hands frequently. We scour stores looking for toilet paper and paper towels, a box of Kleenex is a real score. We didn’t sign up for this, nor did wet see this coming. We couldn’t have imagined the nightmare we’re living through, but like all nightmares, no matter how horrible they are, eventually they are over, we put them away and try not to look back. We go on, shaken up, having learned a new way to live, learning things about ourselves we didn’t know before we were called to courage, hope, faith, and a whole lot of grit to get from the first announcement of a world pandemic to where we are today. Instead of reading a Steven King novel that scares us witless, we feel like we’re inside of a Steven King novel, unable to find our way back out of those pages of life that...

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WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU DON’T KNOW YOURSELF

Very often you look to others, your friends, family, coworkers to see how you’re doing. Are you good enough? Do you fit in? Are you going to continue to rise up whatever ladder you’re looking at, professional or personal? You’re born like a plant seeking the light. If the plant is placed in a dark corner it will twist itself to try to grow toward the light. If a person, from a very early age, realizes what gets them love and attention, they will repeat those attitudes, beliefs, what they say or do, to continue getting love from others. However, you were already born a person, and maybe your family of origin doesn’t understand that. Perhaps they believe it’s their job to turn you into a person, not to be curious about who you are and to guide you into adulthood and independence as yourself, who you were when you were born. You begin wearing a mask you believe is you. The problem is that you have to keep changing masks depending on the other people you’re around and what expectations they have of you. Since you haven’t internalized a solid sense of self that allows you to put on...

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Ever Wonder if You’re Losing Your Mind?

Most people do from time to time or feel some version of the same. Another version is believing you have an undiagnosed condition that's killing you but no doctor can figure out what it is. Chances are that's because it's psychological and not physical. That's because some counseling could help you, with getting some support and empathy, with having someone on your team, getting good suggestions and ideas for areas of your life you're finding are a struggle right now. Check out this article. You'll enjoy reading about what the differences are between insanity and other forms of distress. https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/features/am-i-crazy#2

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Post Valentine News

Well, Valentines Day is over for another year. Some of you were pleased and happy by the end of that day. Some of you were miserable and sad or angry. Here's an interesting article about The Art of Charm. More articles like this could make the holiday brighter for some of next year's sad women. It's annoying to navigate all of the ads but the article is worth reading. You might have to click on the fireworks to get the article. "The science of what makes girls fall in love isn’t a magic spell or a Jedi mind trick. It’s the simple act of paying attention to habits, behaviors, and preferences with an eye toward the role science plays in affairs of the heart. You can’t hack into her brain and make her fall in love with you, but you can use your knowledge of how the brain works to nurture and deepen attraction that’s already there." Read more at the TheArtofCharm.com here:

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Anxiety is Your Friend

Yes, it is, seriously. Very often, we're feeling anxious, but that anxiety is displaced. It doesn't come with the action we're attaching to it, rather something from your past is triggering current anxiety. For instance: You think you can't sleep at night because you're anxious about getting fired, a real threat to your well being. You're not anxious about getting fired. You're anxious about how angry your partner, who depends on at least part of your income, will be if you get fired and there have been several layoffs in your department already. What you would need to do is find the courage to talk to your partner about your fear and ask your partner to help you come up with a plan in case you get fired. Then you're not alone and you have a plan. It wasn't losing the job, although that wouldn't be pleasant, the main anxiety was about angering or disappointing your partner. I say anxiety is your friend because very often we feel anxious about things we need to take a look at and we're not because whatever it is got buried in our subconscious mind because we couldn't or didn't want to deal with...

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