WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU DON’T KNOW YOURSELF

Very often you look to others, your friends, family, coworkers to see how you’re doing. Are you good enough? Do you fit in? Are you going to continue to rise up whatever ladder you’re looking at, professional or personal? You’re born like a plant seeking the light. If the plant is placed in a dark corner it will twist itself to try to grow toward the light. If a person, from a very early age, realizes what gets them love and attention, they will repeat those attitudes, beliefs, what they say or do, to continue getting love from others. However, you were already born a person, and maybe your family of origin doesn’t understand that. Perhaps they believe it’s their job to turn you into a person, not to be curious about who you are and to guide you into adulthood and independence as yourself, who you were when you were born. You begin wearing a mask you believe is you. The problem is that you have to keep changing masks depending on the other people you’re around and what expectations they have of you. Since you haven’t internalized a solid sense of self that allows you to put on...

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Ever Wonder if You’re Losing Your Mind?

Most people do from time to time or feel some version of the same. Another version is believing you have an undiagnosed condition that's killing you but no doctor can figure out what it is. Chances are that's because it's psychological and not physical. That's because some counseling could help you, with getting some support and empathy, with having someone on your team, getting good suggestions and ideas for areas of your life you're finding are a struggle right now. Check out this article. You'll enjoy reading about what the differences are between insanity and other forms of distress. https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/features/am-i-crazy#2

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Post Valentine News

Well, Valentines Day is over for another year. Some of you were pleased and happy by the end of that day. Some of you were miserable and sad or angry. Here's an interesting article about The Art of Charm. More articles like this could make the holiday brighter for some of next year's sad women. It's annoying to navigate all of the ads but the article is worth reading. You might have to click on the fireworks to get the article. "The science of what makes girls fall in love isn’t a magic spell or a Jedi mind trick. It’s the simple act of paying attention to habits, behaviors, and preferences with an eye toward the role science plays in affairs of the heart. You can’t hack into her brain and make her fall in love with you, but you can use your knowledge of how the brain works to nurture and deepen attraction that’s already there." Read more at the TheArtofCharm.com here:

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Anxiety is Your Friend

Yes, it is, seriously. Very often, we're feeling anxious, but that anxiety is displaced. It doesn't come with the action we're attaching to it, rather something from your past is triggering current anxiety. For instance: You think you can't sleep at night because you're anxious about getting fired, a real threat to your well being. You're not anxious about getting fired. You're anxious about how angry your partner, who depends on at least part of your income, will be if you get fired and there have been several layoffs in your department already. What you would need to do is find the courage to talk to your partner about your fear and ask your partner to help you come up with a plan in case you get fired. Then you're not alone and you have a plan. It wasn't losing the job, although that wouldn't be pleasant, the main anxiety was about angering or disappointing your partner. I say anxiety is your friend because very often we feel anxious about things we need to take a look at and we're not because whatever it is got buried in our subconscious mind because we couldn't or didn't want to deal with...

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Depression & Loneliness

It stands to reason using social media makes people feel more connected and socially involved, except this study says it doesn't. This study was done to gather information regarding young people. Even if you’re not in your early twenties, reading this article can be helpful because, it’s been my observation as a therapist that, it applies to people of all ages. If you limit the time you spend on social media, you’ll have more time to complete projects around the house, make art, write poetry, train for a marathon, participate in a live social event in your community or something else that appeals to you. I'm not suggesting people give up using social media. It’s here to stay. However, deciding how much time is enough time for you and then sticking to your limits, after an initial withdrawal period, can feel refreshing and liberating. Read more at Science Daily here:

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