WHO ARE YOU?

Here's an interesting article about a link between chronic stress and psychological problems such as anxiety disorder. How would you know if you're experiencing chronic stress? You probably read that question and thought it was a dumb question because doesn't everyone know if they're experiencing stress and wouldn't anyone know if the stress they're experiencing is chronic? Yes, a person knows what their subjective experience of their life is and was but people are also easily influenced and the placebo effect is around fifty percent. I often hear people admonish other people to "slow down," "take a break," "get rid of some of the stress in their life," "learn to relax," and so on or, even more exciting, are the people who suggest to other people that they're going to have a heart attack or a stroke or some other unpleasant life event if they don't get rid of some of the stress in their life. That means that someone could actually be feeling good as they're working hard toward a goal or juggling several life events at once or working long hours and a well intentioned observer (read family member or close friend) will offer an admonishment like the...

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ANXIETY A SYMPTOM OF DEPRESSION?

Yes, anxiety and irritability are common symptoms of depression. People are surprised when I suggest they are depressed because they don't feel lethargic or sad but feel restless and anxious. Read more about it here:https://www.adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/depression/symptomsAll posts unless reposts are copyrighted by MJ Klimenko and can't be duplicated or copied without permission of the author.

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SOCIAL ANXIETY

If you know twenty people you know someone who suffers from social anxiety. That’s when a person has anxiety or fear about being judged by others or rejected by others when in some sort of group activity. People with social anxiety often feel like other people are looking at them and thinking negative thoughts about them. Sometimes social anxiety can be so severe it can lead to agoraphobia, a fear of going out of the house at all. Most cases of social anxiety involve avoiding social situations if possible or showing up late and leaving early. It’s a rare person who talks about having social anxiety because they already feel “weird” and out of place. They don’t want to draw any more attention to the fact that they’re counting the seconds until they can leave and escape the discomfort of the situation or that they have a heart beating closer to the way a rabbit’s heart beats than a human’s or feel nauseous or have sweaty palms or all of those symptoms. Social anxiety can be so severe a person can actually get sick before having to go somewhere and often this results in the person not going after all....

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SLEEP ON IT

            Sometimes it’s a good idea just to go to bed and get some sleep. Notice the qualifier, “sometimes,” because going to bed early every night can be a way to avoid your partner altogether and that’s not helpful. If that’s the case you need to talk about it. Here are some times when sleeping on it is a good idea: 1. You and your partner are having an argument that just seems to be getting worse the longer it goes on and you both have to work in the morning. You probably aren’t going to solve anything if you’ve been arguing for awhile. When you wake up both of you should have cooled off by several degrees so you can resume the discussion as level headed adults and not screaming children. You might even find that the “problem” isn’t a problem anymore. 2. You are feeling a lot of stress at work, the kids seem to be attempting to break the sound barrier and your partner is ignoring you and you don’t know why. Getting a good night’s sleep will allow you to ask your partner if something is bothering her in a tone of voice that conveys to...

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ONE WAY TO DE-STRESS EASILY IGNORED

You've heard people say it, read it in magazines, seen it on the Internet, maybe even tried it and noticed a positive difference right away.But it's just too easy so you forget about it and go slogging through your stressed out life wishing you could untie the Gordian knot of too many things to do and not enough time to do them, work, home, family,  the stress of a daily commute all the while moving faster and faster, adding more to your list of things to do.Because, many of you think, the way to making things better should be hard, complex, some kind of long range plan, which may be true for long range solutions and accomplishment of goals, but isn't at all true when it comes to lightening your mood and having a less stressed out day.I don't know why people feel like they have to have the entire solution to the problem and everything fixed or changed before they can experience less daily stress but they do, I've witnessed this phenomenon for 25 years now. So here it is. Do it three times a day, O.K. one time a day and work up to two or three and...

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