What Happens in a Panic or Anxiety Attack and What You Can Do About It

A panic attack is sudden; you aren’t aware of something that you could attribute to making you feel anxious. It comes out of nowhere, which is why many people believe they are having a heart attack. Hospital emergency rooms see people all of the time who are having panic attacks, not heart attacks because the symptoms seem that severe. If you don’t know what’s happening to you, it’s easy to think of a heart attack. And if you ever believe you have a heart attack, you do need to go to the nearest emergency room or your doctor’s office so something physical can be ruled out. Once you recognize the symptoms, it will be much easier for you to know...

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About You Part Two, final

Please read yesterday's post first and then this second half:     you so you got punished for getting bad grades, and more but you get the drift, you were taught to hate yourself because, after all, would any of the loving people in their lives do anything to deliberately hurt them unless they were disgusting and not deserving of love. You, through no fault of your own, became a self-hater and self-haters project the self-hate out onto other people and then believe that others find you disgusting so you can find them disgusting back and them’s fighting words. If we could create a sea of mothers who, in the same decade, gave birth to children that they then protected...

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About You Part 1

There’s much talk, some action and much inaction when it comes to professing self-love, doing yoga and drinking green tea, having best friends from the second grade, to looking honestly at yourself and admitting you hate yourself, loath yourself, and, quickly now you’ll go there, then put it out of your mind right away. Truth is, if there wasn’t self-loathing in the world there would be no war. It’s the best kept secret, no one ever admits to unless they’re in therapy. You didn’t suddenly just wake up one day and had the oh so sudden thought about hating yourself. No, it was a gift some or one unwitting adult gave you, mostly not out of meanness but out of...

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Social Phobia or I Won’t Have Anything to Say.

Do you sometimes dread going somewhere because "you won't know what to say". This can be any type of situation from family gatherings to office meetings. You know once you begin talking to people you're fine and even enjoy yourself. The first sentence or two is jumping into a pool filled with icy mountain runoff, so cold it's painful. Once you begin paddling around, using your arms and legs you discover you're fine. The same process applies to social phobia. Jump in and start swimming. Here is a page of 101 conversation starters. Print out a "cheat sheet" before you go and choose one or two to memorize so you'll find it quite easy, with a little practice, to go...

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A Free Benefit? Really?

Yes, according to scientific data there is one thing we can do that has many positive benefits and doesn't cost a dime. Unfortunately, many people don't take even fifteen minutes a day to do it. Yes, you're busy, yes it's boring (maybe), yes to all the reasons why it just doesn't happen in your life. Read this and hopefully it will change your mind.   https://qz.com/592569/a-neuroscientist-says-theres-a-powerful-benefit-to-exercise-that-is-rarely-discussed/  

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Do You Remember Your Life? Probably Not.

“When you feel happy, really happy, it somehow seems that you’ve always been happy and that you’ll always be happy. The same is often true when you feel sad, or lonely, or depressed, or broke, or sick, or scared. Something, perhaps, to remember.” —Notes From The Universe It's bad enough to feel depressed, anxious, insecure, jealous, fearful, without believing you've been this way more often than not during your lifetime. How often has someone told you they were born to be unhappy or to have problems or some version of those that indicate the person's perception of themselves and their lives is very negative? With few exceptions they're probably wrong. Science and brain imaging are now able to prove that...

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